Katherine Rosman: "I looked at her..."

"I looked at her, and I thought - as a parent might think when looking at her sad or feverish child- I would do anything, anything at all, to bring her comfort."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "...after a death, every..."

"... after a death, every object can take on heartbreaking meaning."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "On her behalf, I..."

"On her behalf, I feel the crush of all that she wanted but didn't have time to experience."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "...I believe that the..."

"... I believe that the universe has a way of taking you where you need to go..."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "One day, he just..."

"One day, he just realized he had a choice [his wife told me]. He could either feel entitled - that he shouldn't have lost a child, or he could take the road of gratitude - that he should be grateful that he had this child for even a day. That choice between entitlement and gratitude made all the difference for him."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "Until you've gone through..."

"Until you've gone through it, you can't realize that when your parent dies, part of you goes away."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "Miracles result from a...

"Miracles result from a heap of toil mixed with a lot of good luck."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "When I close my..."

"When I close my eyes, I see Mom in her natural state. She is dancing and laughing. Then I place my hand over my own heart and I feel her."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "I guess that's the..."

"I guess that's the definition of faith: believing in something not because you can absolutely prove its truth but because it gives you comfort."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "At certain points in..."

"At certain points in a woman's life, there is something about vanity that reflects upon dignity, strength, and hope."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "It occurred to me..."

"It occurred to me that sometimes bittersweetness might be as much as a person reasonably can hope for."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "There is a spiritual..."

"There is a spiritual rhythm created by women in a kitchen on a holiday..."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "I had become less..."

"I had become less cynical and more like the sort of person who believes that if you are open to finding meaning - which is almost always an exercise in faith and almost never an exercise in certainty - you might find meaning."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "It's a bummer that..."

"It's a bummer that so often when we learn a lesson, it's too late to put it to good use."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "Children, no matter the..."

"Children, no matter the age, are meant to be mortified by their parents. It's part of the natural order."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "As a daughter, I..."

"As a daughter, I could consider my mom as it hadn't occurred to me to do before - as someone who could be defined by more than motherhood."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "...I didn't know what..."

"... I didn't know what to do with my absence of worry - worry that had sucked up so much of my life for so long."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "But when I'm lonesome..."

"But when I'm lonesome and depressed and feeling alone, I will conjure you, my brave mama."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "To open heart: Ignore..."

"To open heart: Ignore what is irrelevant to who you are. Choose beliefs that align with how you want to feel and what you want to create."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy

Katherine Rosman: "Sometimes being different is..."

"Sometimes being different is what sisterhood is about, for better or worse..."

—Katherine Rosman, If You Knew Suzy